What Causes Relationship Breakups – Communication

One of the major causes of breakups (or more realistically – breakdowns) in relationships, is a break down in communication. A breakdown in communication is the key in bringing about misunderstanding between two people.
It is not JUST a breakdown, as in not speaking with each other. It begins with something same a poor interpretation of what was meant by the words or perhaps an unwise choice of words or even advisedly using words to wound. A big conception of learning to communicate effectively is seeking an understanding of the other person, and this is done by speaking WITH understanding of the other person, and of themselves.

When we communicate with other people, an interesting dynamic takes place.
Consider this: when you have a conversation with another person, you are just having a two-way conversation, right? Actually, it is more same a ’six-way’ conversation! ‘How is this?!’ you might ask… well, have a look, the anatomy of a conversation goes something same this:

1 .what he said
2 .what she said
3 .what he intellection he said
4 .what she intellection she said
5 .what he intellection she said
6. what she intellection he said
To top that off, what they talk about is always ‘coloured’ by their own individualized life experience and perspective, and is also seen from that same perspective.